Struggling to Express Yourself & State Your Boundaries? Read This!

~by Tera Warner

You can have all the right shoes, clothes and stuff stuffed in your cupboards, you can eat all the right food and exercise regularly, but if you don’t know how to speak your mind, express yourself, stand up for what you believe in and state your boundaries, then no matter how many things you do right on the outside, on the inside you’ll feel stuck and overwhelmed.

To improve your confidence, start taking up more space and feel more alive, one of the first and most important things you need to know to start empowering yourself in communication and improving yourself confidence is that there are really only two kinds of communication.

Communication Flows In Two Directions

If you keep on filling a glass of water, without stopping to take a few drinks, eventually it will spill. The same is true with communication. If you always let communication come in–let other people’s opinions and ideas influence your decisions rather than courageously expressing your own, you’ll start to get overwhelmed. You need to know this very important piece of information:

There are essentially only two kinds of communication: incoming communication and outgoing communication.

If you listen to too many lectures and read too many articles, read too many self-help books or take too many “self-improvement” courses, without taking that information and sharing it, applying it, using it, talking about it, doing something with it, stating your own ideas about it–you can start to feel insecure, overwhelmed and doubting yourself.

If you let someone talk to you too long without putting in a few of your own words, receive too many parental coaching lectures without sharing your thoughts or feeling understood, you may end up feeling irritable, frustrated, and misunderstood.

You’ve Got to Keep a Balance of Communication

The balance of incoming communication and outgoing communication is one of the most important things you need to understand in order to feel confident in your communication and in life in general! [tweet_dis]We’re taught a lot about food, fitness and health, but rarely these important basics for successful communication.[/tweet_dis]

See if these scenarios ring an uncomfortable bell:

You send emails and don’t get a reply.
You keep trying to call someone and they never return your calls.
You ask a question, but don’t get an answer.
A friend leaves the country without your getting the chance to say goodbye.
A loved one passes away and you realize you won’t get the chance to communicate with them again.
Your inbox is literally overflowing with emails and you’re not able to keep up with them.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed by the imbalance of communication flows in your life, chances are REALLY good there’s way more coming in than going out and it’s TIME TO COMMUNICATE!

Most people learn early how to bite their tongue instead of ruffling someone’s features, but the ability to express yourself, stand for what you believe in and state your opinions about things is one of the most important, but least understood skills we ever learn.

Starting on August 23rd we’ll be kicking off an all-new project called, The Enthusiasm Experiment: 10 Days to Improve Your Health, Self-Confidence and Relationships! This project started as an experiment on a young boy with autism to see if enthusiastic communication could improve his ability to connect with others and communicate. The results were undeniable and now we’re bringing the experiment to the world. You can sign up here and get ready to be a part of the world’s Happiest experiment and find out how a few powerful tools about communication can improve your life and relationships.