How To Really Make People Like You
~ by Tera Warner
I know you.
If you’re anything like me (and just about every person on the planet) you love making other people feel good, appreciated and important. And, naturally, you love it when people feel good around you, so sometimes you do a lot to accommodate others and behave in ways that you know other people will like–even if it means compromising a few of the things that are normally important to you.
And that’s all fine and dandy unless…doing these things happens at the expense of your own freedom and authenticity.
I’d like to let you in on a little secret.
The Secret
It feels good to be liked and admired. It feels good to have other people validate and approve of the things we do and the way we are in the world.
[tweet_dis]But don’t ever let your need for admiration or approval interfere with your ability to just be yourself.[/tweet_dis]
If you ever find yourself in the situation of trying to be someone else, or behave in a way that is not authentic for you (in order to gain approval or make others comfortable) then you’re on a downward path moving fast and you’ve got to jump off before you hit a wall!
The truth is, despite what you may think and believe, the thing people love MOST about you, is YOU! The most attractive, admirable, enjoyable thing you can be is Pure, Unadulterated, 100% Natural!
It’s when you’re not trying to please other people or have their approval that being with people is effortless and enjoyable.
It’s when you’re NOT worried about what others think of you, and you’re just being spontaneous, following your heart and doing what feels good that others will most enjoy being in your space.
And that’s when you’ll feel most alive inside!
“You don’t have to change yourself to please the world.
You just have to be yourself, because that’s what changes the world.”
It’s Uncomfortable, But Do It Anyway.
I know you might feel afraid to state your mind, speak your thoughts or say what you’re really thinking and feeling out there because you’re afraid of what other people might think if you do. I’d really love to encourage you to spit it out despite the discomfort.
If the intention of your words is not to harm or belittle, if the thing holding you back is a fear of what other people will think of you for saying it or expressing something, then I’d like to give you permission to be authentic today.
Know that whatever you say, whatever you have to express, share, communicate, etc….
…I’ll still love ya!
And what’s even more important is you’ll love yourself.
Your freedom to communicate and express yourself is one of the biggest factors influencing the degree to which you feel ALIVE! And the reverse is also true. To the degree that you’re holding yourself back in fear, worry, reluctance because you aim to please other people, it’s coming at the expense of your own livingness.
And that isn’t worth it. The world needs you alive and thriving. So get out there and say what you have to say! If you want to practice on me, just reply to this message. 😉 Otherwise, blurt, stumble, spit it out and FEEL THE FREEDOM, Baby!
If you need a lead-in phrase, try something like this: “I’m not sure how to say this, and I worry that you’ll be upset with me if I do, but I really want to let you know how I’m feeling…”
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