[New Year, New You] Day 13: How to Find Your Rebel Spirit
In yesterday’s blog post I wrote about how other people’s ideas, comments and behaviour can influence how you view the world–sometimes without your even realizing it. I mentioned the idea of the “dusty puppets” in your personal psychodrama as these shadows of the people who have been there and passed along their ideas or behaviours to you and that with so many of these influencing you in any given moment, sometimes it can be hard to figure out which ones are really you. What are the goals you have because you “think you’re supposed to” and what are the goals you have because that’s what you, as a spiritual firecracker, actually yearn for?
The pressure to fit in and follow the rules can be all-consuming. It’s much easier to be socially acceptable than to feel like there’s something about you other people don’t like or can’t readily accept. But finding your rebel spirit–your personal goals, aspirations, beliefs, values and ideas that you are willing to hold in spite of any pressure or rejection–that’s one of the most important things you’ll ever do.
At the end of your days, if you haven’t found that, who have you lived your life for?
“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan.
And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.”
Social Veneer: The Thick, Sticky Layer of B.S. Coating Real Life
Tomorrow’s podcast and blog lesson will be doozies, so I encourage you to stay tuned for that one, but leading up to it I want to explore first this idea of “social veneer” – the thick and sticky coating on life that tells you how to act, dress, talk, walk and engage in life so as to be socially acceptable to other people. Social veneer is what prevents people from rocking boats, ruffling feathers or being “confrontational.” But social veneer is also what has prevented people for many years from understanding the earth wasn’t flat and not all women are witches!
While there are wild, brave and beautiful exceptions to the rule, for many of us, it feels easy to follow the crowd and fit in. It feels easy to eat your Wheaties and pass your tests in class. It’s easy to buckle down and shut up and do what you’re told because everybody likes you that way and being liked feels good. It certainly makes life easier for everyone else around you when you don’t fiddle in class, make noise in public, or talk about the wild and unreasonable things you want to do with your life.
But it’s a slow road to spiritual death and the greatest ideas, the most earth-shaking realizations and mind-boggling discoveries never came from a “mob” of socially compliant robots, they came from one brave, person who was willing to see things outside of the box–someone who dared to defy “the way things are” and actually change them!
“If I had asked people what they wanted,
they would have said faster horses.”
― Henry Ford
You can access the rest of the blog which accompanies this podcast here.