[New Year, New You] Day 14: How to Lose the Need to Be Liked
We’ve been talking about how to peel back the layers of misinformation, opinion, and burning hot lies you’ve been fed and led to believe over the years about the way life works and what you’re capable of, so we can help you find your rebel spirit–the feisty firecracker that’s been burning inside of you since Day 1! When you follow the mob, or go with the flow, being careful not to ruffle feathers or rock boats, you can find yourself one day stuck in a socially acceptable spiritual straight jacket. It’s not even very easy to recognize your goals and dreams anymore, or identify your real passions and interests. And if you do, then when it comes time to express them in life to other people, or actually do something about it, you feel frozen and petrified. It’s like you’re standing there with a match in your hand, but too afraid to light the spark of that inner firecracker and let her take up space for fear of offending someone, or being rejected.
Remember earlier in this series, when I talked about sex, chocolate and sunsets? I shared the one thing they all have in common, and explained that this “thing” was sensation–the flutter of energy moving through, on or around you. Sensation is the big spiritual pay check in life, it’s why we do things. It is the thrill of adventure! If sensations were like gemstones, then admiration would be diamonds. It’s the most valuable sensation and the one people are most willing to “pay” for with their time, attention, and self-sacrifice of various kinds.
And yet, one of the tricky things about being liked, or receiving admiration, is that the more you want it and need it, the less of it you’ll get. And any time you changed yourself or sacrificed your goals and values so someone else would “like” you more, you got yourself into a bit of a mess. This article explains how to get out of the trap of needing to be liked, so you can finally start truly liking yourself and loving your life!
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